Love Yourself First
If could wrap my arms around the world, this would be the message. Without love for self love for others is impossible. Stop and ask, would you speak to others the way you speak to yourself? When I was first asked that (or first became aware of it) it was step one to stop calling myself STUPID all the time.
A few years after I stopped it my father and I had a thing and he called me that. I kicked him out of my house – he was visiting for the first time ever, unannounced. At least I know exactly where it came from, this me calling myself STUPID when I am, at base, nothing of the sort.